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For Parents and Caregivers

Behavior Checker helps you learn simple, effective teaching strategies that lower everyone's stress.

Behavior Checker Solutions help you to protect, be a "buffer", against the stress that your child experiences (that stress often results in her behaving in inappropriate ways) so that it doesn’t become toxic to her brain, cardiovascular system and immune system. Research shows that “buffering” builds executive functioning, self-regulation and other necessary skills to help a child learn how to be resilient, problem-solve, tolerate frustration, delay gratification, and navigate the ups and downs of life. 

Just to be clear, we are not talking about making sure that your child never experiences stress—he’s going to be frustrated, fearful, disappointed, angry and not always get what he wants, for example. We’re saying that your care, support and protection, consistently given...buffering...can mitigate stress so it does not become toxic, a health danger to your child. In short, Parenting is Healthcare.

3 ways Behavior Checker makes parenting easier and lowers everyone's stress:

  • Look at everyday parenting through a new lens—upstream, as first-line, universal, common-sense practical prevention of health, learning and behavior problems—by using Behavior Checker for answers and support to lessen your stress. Just click on “Find the Behavior” or “By Category” and follow the prescription for each—and ask your child’s healthcare provider if you have questions or need more support. For more detailed information about each behavior problem, the reasons your child acts the way he does and how to prevent each behavior problem from starting in the first place, see Discipline with Love and Limits.

  • Let go of the fear of embarrassment and judgment that prevent you from asking for help when you are overwhelmed, frustrated, and unable to cope with your child’s behavior. We don’t wince when the doctor or nurse tells us how to deal with our child’s fever, rash or vomiting, but we don’t want to admit to our child’s overuse of screen time, being a picky eater, and wanting his own way, lest we label ourselves “bad parents” for not being able to solve this problem on our own. Your child's healthcare provider understands that helping you take care of your child's health means teaching you how to teach your child effective discipline to raise a healthy child. That's why providers are recommending you use Behavior Checker to teach your child good behavior to replace whining or backtalk, for example, as you would look for ways to treat your child’s runny nose, rash or stomachache.

  • The American Academy of Pediatrics wants you to know the harmful outcomes from using unhealthy parenting strategies, such as spanking, hitting, slapping, threatening, insulting, humiliating or shaming. "Optimal child development requires," according the to the new AAP Policy Statement, "the active engagement of adults who, among other functions, teach children acceptable behavior." The questions are: What do to if you don't spank, hit, slap, threaten, insult, humiliate or shame?  How do you teach children acceptable behavior?

    Their new Policy Statement provides the answers: "The AAP recommends that adults caring for children use healthy forms of discipline, such as positive reinforcement of appropriate behaviors, setting limits, redirecting, and setting future expectations."

    All of these healthy forms of teaching discipline lower everyone's stress. Find them in the "What to Do's" of every Behavior Checker Solution.

The authors and Raised with Love and Limits Foundation disclaim responsibility for any harmful consequences, loss, injury or damage associated with the use and application of information or advice contained in these prescriptions and on this website. These protocols are clinical guidelines that must be used in conjunction with critical thinking and critical judgment.